Liking The Child You Love
Product Description Many parents don’t realize how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, can cause emotional upheaval, often leading to poor communication, favoritism, lowered expectations, and overly harsh punishments. Parents, however, tend not to let themselves work through these feelings.
In Liking the Child You Love, Bernstein shows how to tame the 9 toxic thought patterns. From avoiding the “Always or Never Trap” to overcoming “Emotional Overheating,” the book features proven strategies for improving kids’ behavior and creating a closer relationship—just by changing one’s own mind.
10 Days to a Less Distracted Child
Review
Atlanta Parent, 2/09
“Parents will learn to avoid homework battles, build their child’s confidence and reduce issues of losing focus.”
Product Description A fresh, practical, and completely original take on handling inattentive/hyperactive children. Anecdotal examples throughout help parents understand their kids, improve focus and organization at school, and eliminate other distracted or inappropriate behaviors at home.
10 Days to a Less Defiant Child
Occasional clashes between parents and children are common, but when defiant behavior - such as tantrums, resistance to chores, and negativity - becomes chronic, it can cause big problems within the family. In 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child child and family psychologist Dr. Jeff Bernstein has developed a ground-breaking 10-day program to help parents gain back control over their defiant child or teen. This powerful and exceptionally reader-friendly guide helps parents understand why their kids act the way they do, why defiance is so destructive to the family, and shows them step-by-step how they can end the behavior and improve their relationship. Bernstein also offers tips and exercises to help parents evaluate their own behavior and respond to their defiant child in a more constructive manner. Simple-to-follow and extremely effective, 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child will bring much-needed relief to the millions of frustrated parents living with defiant children.
Dr. Laura Schlessinger, internationally syndicated radio host, author of, "Bad Childhood, Good Life"
If education were mandatory to qualify for parenthood-- this book would be the required reading!
Ed Hallowell, M.D.
A useful and innovative book.
Robert Brooks, Ph.D., Faculty, Harvard Medical School Co-author, "Raising Resilient Children"
Dr. Bernstein has written a truly impressive book about dealing with angry, defiant children and adolescents. His astute, empathic insights about these youngsters and his practical, sensible suggestions for lessening their defiance and increasing their cooperation will be of assistance not only to parents but to teachers and mental health professionals as well. This book will serve as an invaluable resource for adults raising or working with defiant children and adolescents.
Ivan J. Katz, Ed.D., Superintendent of Schools, Eldred Central School District
10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, by Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein, is a must read for parents and educators alike! In short order, Dr. Bernstein has masterfully created a program which allows parents to improve family and school relationships by giving them the user friendly tools necessary to address long-term child defiance. Familial support, positive reinforcement and a team approach that includes working with school staff are the cornerstones that make this work rise to the top. Every school psychologist and every educator who deals with defiant children should have a copy of this book in their libraries!
Why Can't You Read My Mind?
Most people think that poor communication is the reason why
so many relationships end, but it's actually the way
we learn to think about our partners and our problems that
kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication.
In Why Can't You Read My
Mind?, psychologist Jeffrery Bernstein reveals--for the
first time--the nine toxic thought
patterns at work in virtually every relationship, and shows
couples how these distorted, negative, and exaggerated thoughts
can poison their love and end their relationships. With warmth
and wisdom, Dr. Bernstein offers a simple yet powerful
approach for breaking that toxic thinking cycle and helps readers
establish new and more positive thinking habits for
solving their problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life.
Packed with practical advice, Why Can't
You Read My Mind? is an invaluable tool for couples
seeking to restore-or create-a
happy, loving, and fulfilling relationship.
Editorial Reviews
From Publishers Weekly
Bernstein, a psychologist specializing in couples and family therapy, and Magee (The Power of Positive Confrontation) offer partners a way to renew the spark in their relationships in this succinct self-help guide. They claim that one of the most significant steps is to focus on yourself rather than your partner by ridding yourself of toxic thoughts, "negative thoughts that have lost their basis in reality and have gotten out of control." Examining nine toxic thought patterns (such as jumping to conclusions, labeling one another and playing the "blame game"), the authors provide well-researched explanations, relevant examples and practical alternatives to transform negative thoughts and behaviors into positive and constructive ones.
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Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., New York Times best-selling author of Getting the Love You Want
"This excellent book ... gives detailed guidance on how to create a lasting love. I heartily recommend it."
Nadine J. Carpenter, LCSW
"All couples should read this book and give their relationship a chance for a deeper and longer lasting love."
Steven D. Mullinix, Ph.D.
"This book [will]...help your relationship become better, less conflicted, and more romantic—even if your partner doesn’t read it!"
Monroe A. Bruch, Professor of Counseling Psychology, University of Albany, State University of New York
"Bernstein and Magee ... will assist any motivated couple in making meaningful changes in their relationship."
Don’t let these toxic thought patterns come between you and lasting love:
The All or Nothing Trap * Catastrophic Conclusions * The Should Bomb * Label Slinging * The Blame Game * Emotional Short-Circuit * Overactive Imagination * Head Game Gamble * Disillusionment Doom.